5 signs you’ve outgrown your therapist

It could also be a matter of personal preference, Burgess adds: A new parent may feel more understood by a counsellor who also has kids and can offer guidance from a place of lived experience. Or someone exploring their sexuality for the first time may want a judgment-free space provided by a practitioner who’s got lots of experience working with LGBTQ+ clients.

In scenarios like these, Burgess says that switching providers is simply a way to accommodate your shifting priorities: “As your life changes, so do your needs, and you’ll benefit the most from a therapist who ‘gets’ and understands this version of you.”

3. Your sessions feel more like repetitive, friendly catch-ups

If your meetings start resembling casual (perhaps boring) check-ins more than meaningful conversations, it could mean you’ve successfully worked through the core issues that brought you to therapy in the first place, says Annabelle Dortch, PsyD, a licensed psychotherapist based in Los Angeles.

Instead of processing conflict with your partner or finding better ways to manage anger, maybe the past few weeks have been filled with lighter updates—“Things are good,” “Yeah, work’s been fine,” “Not much to report.” These low-key catch-ups aren’t necessarily bad. But also, it’s okay to crave deeper exploration and bigger challenges in therapy, in which case, Dr. Dortch points out that “repetitive positive conversations can be a sign you’re ready for the next level of growth.”

4. You haven’t been receiving any new takeaways

A big draw of therapy is the opportunity to gain new tips or strategies—learning how to fight fairly in relationships, for instance, or cognitive techniques to handle constructive criticism. (Basically, skills a trained professional is best equipped to teach you.)

After making a ton of progress, however, you may notice a shift: Perhaps their guiding questions aren’t leading you to the same types of breakthroughs, or they’re walking you through the same three exercises. (Use “I” statements…check. Set boundaries…check. Reframe negative thoughts…check.) Instead of leaving your session with useful insight, you walk away thinking, I didn’t need this appointment today.

For the record, it’s possible that this just means “you’ve successfully internalised their advice and are applying it on your own,” Dr. Dortch says. That’s what good therapy is supposed to do: help you become self-sufficient. Once you’ve already achieved this level of self-awareness, though, she adds that it’s worth considering the future of your mental health journey. For some, it’s about continuing to put what they’ve learned into practice, while for others, it might mean moving on to an expert who can offer different approaches and skill sets you have yet to explore.

5. Your therapist recommends less frequent sessions—and it feels right

After you’ve consistently put in the work, unpacked tough emotions and seen the changes you were aiming for, your provider might suggest weaning from weekly to biweekly to maybe monthly check-ins. Or they may even propose a gradual exit plan to help you smoothly transition out—a telltale sign that your bond may have run its course.